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Strategies for Victims of Bullying

1) Remain calm and take deep breaths

2) Count to 10 to help you relax

3) Tell a recess/lunch aide, bus driver, teacher, parent, counselor, principal

4) Use “I” messages (“I feel angry/upset/mad/hurt when you….”)

5) Become a broken record (Say “So…so…so…so…”)

6) Turn an insult into a compliment (“Thanks for the compliment”)

7) Use humor (“That’s really funny!”)

8) Act confused (“What did you say?”)

9) Try to ignore the bully and walk away

10)Find a group of other kids/friends to stay near

11)Show sympathy—(“I’m sorry you feel that way”)

12)Look the bully in the eye, stand tall, look and act confident

Strategies for Bystanders Who Witness Bullying

1) Remain calm and take deep breaths

2) Tell a recess/lunch aide, bus driver, teacher, parent, counselor, principal

(TELLING ON SOMEONE WHO NEEDS HELP IS NOT TATTLING!)

3) Do not join in with a bully if asked to do so

4) Offer support to a victim in public and private

5) Stand together with other kids to confront a bully

6) Walk away so the bully won’t have an audience

7) Stand tall, look and act confident, look the bully in the eye

8) Take a stand (“Leave him/her alone”)

(“You’re not cool when you do that”)

(“We’re not impressed by you”)

(“We’re leaving now”)

(“Stop it now”)